“Why would I trick someone like you? You are a freaking Otaku! I only trick normal guys.”
My sister said this to me recently and I dismissed it as a trivial matter. But upon further reflection, I found the premise of this statement quite interesting.
It all happened after a family dinner I had recently. I found myself caught up in one of those after dinner conversations again with my sister and mother. While enjoying a slightly serious conversation with Mom regarding the economy and the onslaught of stagflation, I noticed that my sister’s face was as dark as a thunder cloud.
Being a concerned older brother of 1 year, I made the mistake of asking her what was wrong.
She immediately opened the floodgates and after awhile, I felt like I was drowning. It had something to with this guy, who we will call Delta, and how she was pissed off with him because she had to pay for him when they went out on dates.
Now I would say that my sister is at least above average in the looks department, and she currently has 3 suitors under consideration. One is Delta (around my age), which is the closest to being her childhood friend. The next guy is an aspiring combat pilot trainee (same age as her), who we will codename Echo, of which she only met up with recently. The last guy is a sociology major who is a full-time executive, of which I will refer to as Foxtrot (definitely older).
My mom and her agreed that Delta was a nice guy, but that he definitely would not guarantee her financial stability. As the conversation dragged on, it became obvious that even though my sister spent the most time with Delta throughout her school years, the likelihood of her getting together with the above mentioned guys is as follows:
Delta < Echo < Foxtrot
For those who can’t be bothered to read through the above rambling, I’ll summarise all I’ve written in one statement which is as follows:
THE WORLD IS A F*CKED UP PLACE.
Which underscores how unrealistic a lot of anime are when childhood friends are concerned. Males and females make relationship decisions ultimately based on ladder theory. If you think this theory is crap, think again. It just so happens that Delta is right at the top of her friends ladder, which if you ask me is a very sad thing indeed because I personally feel Delta is more deserving of her than Echo or Foxtrot. But heck, I believe in ladder theory myself, so please don’t expect me to “set things right” or anything like that. Because it just ain’t gonna happen.
I’ll employ dialogue for the next part of the conversation:
Sis: I mean, he (Delta) can’t expect me to support him next time right?
Me: Well, people are becoming more open minded and so in the future, it may not be uncommon to see women supporting men instead of vice versa. I mean, women are rising up the social ladder quicker than ever, and a lot of them are earning obscene incomes.
Sis: Do I like look I can earn an obscene income to you? (And quite honestly at the rate things are going, she definitely can’t.) Which is why I have to trick guys.
Me: But I doubt that you can trick me…
Sis: …why would I trick you? You are freaking Otaku! I only trick normal guys.
Now, me and my sister are quite close. From empirical observation I would say that we’re closer than most brothers and sisters are. But please, I am certainly NOT a siscon (I don’t give a f*ck who she dates, or whether she has a date) and she doesn’t look like Isurugi Noe.
ANYWAY, there was this point of time when I was still in service (and was perhaps only half-Otaku) that we would spend time together watching the latest episode of the 2006 rendition of Kanon (she likes Tsukimiya Ayu best). In fact, she enjoys every one of Kyoto Animation’s works before Lucky Star (she hates Lucky Star) and she emotionally recognises terms such as loli, moe and Shoujo Ai (I made her watch Manabi Straight!). In fact I find it rather ironic, because she watched anime way earlier than me (I started seriously only at the age of 19). Primarily Shoujo stuff such as Akazukin Cha Cha and Fushigi Yuugi on Animax, which I of course hated.
We don’t do that anymore though, as she is aware of the general reputation Otaku get. It became obvious to her when she swore to me that Kanon was the best thing she ever saw in her entire life, only to realise none of her friends are watching it.
Thus, she does understand fully why I do what I do, and definitely isn’t using the term derrogatively. So she is actually implying:
1. Otaku are smarter than normal guys.
2. Otaku resist hype because hype and trends are ultimately trickery no matter how fun it may seem.
3. Otaku do not conform to social norms because some norms are also a form of restrictive trickery. Social norms benefit society and not the individual, thus conforming is a form of social stupidity. Conformists are not afraid of conforming, since they can blame other conformists and cry on the shoulder of other conformists if anything stupid happens. And there are definitely many more conformists than deviants.
It just so happens that many anime bloggers are in college (or likely to enter college) training to master respected disciplines. I will not quote specific blogs as any general lurker will be able to sense this if they read enough about pages. And quite honestly, there is simply no reason for an anime blogger communicating with the world to lie about his or her qualifications, as it would alienate readers and work against the blogger.
Just a litte bit of something to ponder on. And yup, it is an unwritten rule between me and her not to talk about Otaku-related stuff when we’re in the company of others. She doesn’t watch anime anymore anyway, and both of us respect each other’s decision to thread different paths. Heck, I don’t even talk about Otaku stuff without her anyway. Closet Otakuism is the only way to go in this f*cked up world, but with the advent of a more technologically saavy younger generation and the proliferation of more anime blogs, this might change just yet.
In a nutshell: Yes, girls are more than willing to sacrifice ultimate happiness (memories of childhood and watching KeyAni adaptions) in favour of financial stability. So for those hopeful ones, I would advise you to brace for impact.

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June 24, 2008 at 10:03 pm
drmchsr0
I hate this ladder theory bullshit. So I can can take a few sheep, rank them in some arbitary order, bitch about it to other people, censor my swears, rank them again and again, then think I am better than other people… but I can’t be honest about my utter failure? I can’t be f*cked up too? I can’t physically express my epic fail? F*ck Ladder Theory.
June 24, 2008 at 10:10 pm
dKiWi
ah crap.. I gotta update the blog description for your blog… AGAIN (I prefer the original title).
Anyway, you can hate it all you want. But experience tells me its true lulz.
June 24, 2008 at 10:17 pm
waffo
…but I don’t want to give up KeyAni adaptions…
June 24, 2008 at 10:34 pm
ahgflsmdkk
Do you even know what an otaku is, christ. If you did then you would understand saying that “they are smarter than normal people” or that they “resist hype” is ridiculous. Most otakus positively eat shit if you wrap it up nicely in enough hype. Just because they aren’t conforming to the dominant model doesn’t mean they aren’t conforming. Everything in that article sounds like a pathetical attempt at holier-than-thou self gratification.
June 24, 2008 at 10:47 pm
dKiWi
@ahgflsmdkk (what the heck!?):
Which means Otaku are more or less like normal people, doesn’t it? If that is so, why do we need to gratify ourselves? And why do we have to be classified separately from these “normal” people? Do bear in mind I’m basing my evaluation on the sentence that implied it, and I do believe me and my sister think that Otaku are not that different from normal people. But due to the societal need to stereotype, my sister had no choice but to use the words “Otaku” and “normal people”.
It really depends on how you define Otaku as though, and there really isn’t any proper definition.
That’s the problem with doing this kind of personal posts; was contemplating heavily before hand. I wouldn’t mind discussing it in depth with you if you really have a big problem with it. I have received numerous emails regarding my posts, but I doubt it would be possible with the email you provided me with
June 24, 2008 at 11:04 pm
rroknedaj
Hmm, an interesting post. I think relationships based on financial stability are prone to ending sourly. After all, I wouldn’t want to go out with a girl who wants me just because I have a high income. Relationship and fondness should be a key factor in deciding who you end up with. As for the ladder theory I’d say it applies to people differently (as in different regions, ideologies and whatsoever).
After all, the world could very well benefit from a few more romantics couldn’t it? =D
June 24, 2008 at 11:19 pm
dKiWi
@rroknedaj:
The world certainly would benefit, but the reasons my mother gave me for marrying my dad, and my grandmother allowing her to marry him, are in favour of ladder theory.
Surprise surprise!
However, as this is really quite a personal issue, its better to leave everyone to find out for themselves. I don’t wish to force this on anyone and honestly, the sample size that I have presented is lousy. I just hope it isn’t too late when people do find out though.
Besides when it comes to arguments there is no such thing as right or wrong; only strong and weak. Its really up to you to test out whether this argument is empirically strong, but do not forcefully block out opinions in the process. That’s a mistake that I often see people make, and leads to the birth of festering stereotypes.
June 24, 2008 at 11:45 pm
Hinano
Actually I think anime is realistic for Japan not the US (or whatever other country you’re from.) In Japan you’re raised with and go to school with the like same 30 people from your hometown. Since going to college in Japan isnt’ as popular (since why would women go to college to become housewives anyway?) they often tend to find that someone in high school and marry them once the guy gets his stable job.
in the US or Russia (countries i have lived in), women are more independent and can get stable jobs without having to rely on family or another man. Hence why, there’s no need for them to lock onto a guy and try to snatch him for security so they have more options of who they choose.
So yes, the childhood friend thing is total BS when taken out of Japan. I’m sure not ALL the Japanese follow their childhood friend thing but I’m sure they at least keep in touch with them. Me on the other hand, after I saw my chilldhood male friend after like a 10 year gap, I didn’t even know what to say to him and we haven’t kept in touch since.
June 24, 2008 at 11:56 pm
dKiWi
@Hinano:
That’s a real relief, because I really enjoyed the Yotsunoha OVA. As I am more of a realist, having to tell myself “this isn’t real” while really enjoying something kind of spoils the experience. Glad to know that Japan is an exception when it comes to this kind of stuff, which explains why childhood friends are portrayed in such a manner when it comes to anime.
June 25, 2008 at 4:22 pm
rroknedaj
Hahaha, it’s good to know some people are into that. Japan is pretty cool after all! xD
Anyway dKiWi, you’ve got some good points on the matter. I guess it is quite personal after all. =)
June 25, 2008 at 6:00 pm
Mia
Particularly raffles junior college lol , How did you get your family to actually watch anime with you?
Kanon is great but most people don’t watch it because it isn’t mainstream here, most people here are only naru/bleachtards though.
June 25, 2008 at 6:14 pm
dKiWi
@Mia:
I don’t understand the RJC part of your comment. Care to clarify?
And like I said we’re quite close. 1 of my female friends said “both of you are so close, its scary.” I didn’t force her or anything, but we don’t do it anymore anyway.
June 25, 2008 at 7:06 pm
Mia
Quote ” I will not quote specific blogs as any general lurker will be able to sense this if they read enough about pages.”
Brightmirage from rjc?
June 25, 2008 at 10:08 pm
dKiWi
Heh, that’s the first time I’ve heard that about DM. Yeah he is one of the more prominent examples along with others like Impz from That. And I’m not just limiting the list to Singaporeans, there are many others that are in notable colleges as well. Too many to list really.
And JLPT 1 is a bitch to pass, so what DM has achieved is really something. Especially when he did it on top of his JC work. I believe most people stop at JLPT 2. If you attempt to learn Japanese and talk to other Japanese learners, you’ll hear stuff like “I don’t think many Japanese take JLPT 1 themselves” etc etc. which really scares me lol. I’ve just completed 25 hours of classroom instruction myself, and heck it wasn’t that easy.
P.S. Check out Shirukii’s explaination on the physics of fluids of a boomerang (and check out the background of his freaking blog). I swear I couldn’t understand it in one reading:
http://www.alafista.com/2008/05/01/boomerang-in-space-video/
June 29, 2008 at 6:55 pm
sz3
Interesting.. Insight into your family life.. Heh.. =P
Anyway.. Resisting hype and all that is simply up to a person and whether he/she wants to think or not right? Either you accept the hype without question or think further and look deeper into it regardless of being an otaku or not.
After all believing in hype and looking past it are both different things in my opinion. Take Hellgate London as an example. I was caught in the hype for a while and nearly bought the damn game but held back even though 5 of my campmates preordered it. In the end, it sucked and I was glad I never wasted pay on it. Now wouldn’t that be simply looking past the hype and getting on with your life? =)
Still glad I never bought it.. What a waste of money..
June 29, 2008 at 7:02 pm
dKiWi
Oh F*ckgate London? Did you hear? The latest patch doesn’t support the southeast asian versions and now F*ckship studios dun care abt SE asia. And they are now trying to flood the SE asian market with North American versions THE F*CKERS!!!!
BUT WHO NEEDS HELLGATE LONDON WE GOT DIABLO 3 WHOO HOO!!!! JUST GOT ANNOUNCED YESTERDAY!!!:
http://eu.blizzard.com/diablo3/world/
Abt the Otaku argument, its valid. But my sister has the impression that being Otaku means u ignore trends, which doesn’t sit well with her but that’s her general impression. She has met some Otaku that behave thus and they are surprised that she knows stuff like Kanon and Lucky Star.
But anyway… “normal” people are less resitant to hype its fact. Like iPod music quality is f*cking inferior to Creative but everyone has iPods. I mean USE YOUR EARS DAMNIT
June 29, 2008 at 10:56 pm
sz3
Yeah.. My friend was complaining exactly that about HGL.. Pity.. It had so much potential which was ruined badly.. Interesting though.. Bill Roper was on of the developers for D2 right? Just that he’s not in Blizzard now..
Can imagine the surprise that your sis can give guys..
Her: What do you like watching?
Guy: I enjoy cartoons.
Her: Which ones? (suspects)
Guy: Oh. Ones about big robots and action. Also schoolgirls and school life ones. (nervous)
Her: Ah. Lucky Star. Hate that.
Guy:
[The above was based entirely off ALOT of assumptions. Sincere apologies if I offend anyone.]
June 30, 2008 at 1:17 am
out of point
sorry kiwi i have to do this.
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yay for ur linkage.
trolling when u have killed a bigass moth when ur abt to sleep and cant cos now ur all sweaty rocks.